The "Consent" Double Standard

The topic of consent has been a hot topic over the last few years, and it should be. Women all over the world are shouting loud and clear that guys need to ask for consent before touching a woman. With the Me Too movement, more and more women are starting to come forward when there's been a case of sexual misconduct.

Guys, yes you absolutely need to ask for consent. Wouldn't you rather be safe than sorry? If it were me, I'd much rather ask for consent then get accused of sexual misconduct, sexual assault or sexual harassment.

And no guys, asking for consent does NOT kill the mood. The only time it kills the mood is when the woman really wasn't that interested in the first place. That's just brutal honesty.

Trust me if a woman has high interest in you, asking for consent will really just speed things along....rather than you sitting there wondering all night if it's okay to make a move.

For those that don't understand consent, let me break it down for you.

The definition of consent is when someone voluntarily agrees to the proposal or desires of another.

In a nutshell guys, just because a woman invites you over to her place....that doesn't mean she's consenting to sex. Just because you took her out for an expensive meal or she comes over to your place, that STILL doesn't mean she's consenting to sex.

So again, it's better to be safe than sorry and you should ask for consent. Honestly though if you're dating a woman with extremely high interest, don't be surprised if she starts putting her hands on you first to get things started........

Which leads me to another point. As many women these days that want guys to explicitly ask for consent.....I've noticed that women almost NEVER ask for consent for touching a guy. Now, I'm 44 years old as I write this, and I can't think of a SINGLE time that a woman has EVER asked for consent before touching me.

I've been walking in a club before and I've had women grab my crotch without asking......I've been walking by and I've had women rub their hand down my chest without asking.....I've even had women grab my hand and put it on their ass without asking me.

I've had a female manager rub my ass at work....and we all have that one female co-worker who walks up behind you and just starts rubbing your shoulders without asking if it's okay.

I was talking with my wife about this, and she can't think of a single time where she's ever asked for consent.

To all the guys out there reading this, how many of you have ever had a woman ask for consent?

To all the ladies out there, have you ever asked a guy for consent before touching him? Let me know your thoughts!

So yes ladies, consent applies to you too!

You need to start asking for consent before putting your hands on someone.

For you guys out there that are struggling with dating or you don't know how to tell the difference between a woman with high interest...and a woman with low interest who's just using you for your time, money and/or attention, I've got a few spots open on my calendar.

If you choose to work with me, within 90 days or less you'll no longer have to deal with being stuck in someone's friend zone.

Until next time

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