Don't Even Waste Your Time!!
When I was 19, I was lucky enough to get a paid internship at a tech company.
There was a particular intern that I had my eye on for months and some of the my friends at the company knew it. One of my friends at the company went a rival school, so we placed a wager on the upcoming rivalry football game.
If I lost the bet, I had to walk over to her cubicle and ask her out. Not only did my team lose, they got obliterated. As a matter of fact, I think the other team just scored another touchdown......
I walked over to her cubicle that following Monday, with my friends watching.
I started off with the usual small talk, and then out of nowhere she says:
"Look, I'm not interested at all. Don't even waste your time."
She said it so loud that a few people actually looked up. I saw one guy smirking to himself as I turned around and slowly walked away like a scolded puppy. As I walked back, I wished a trap door would just open under me so I could disappear. My friends clowned me for the rest of week!
As defeated as I felt in this moment, this was actually a great thing!
Now, did I want to get embarrassed like that in front of my friends and co-workers?
I didn't know at the time, but when a woman you're interested in tells you no, she's doing you a huge favor! When a woman says no, it keeps you from wasting time on a woman who's not really interested in you.
Look at the MONTHS I wasted trying to ask her out.
"No" keeps you from getting stuck in the Friend Zone
"No" allows you to quickly move on to someone else
"No" is freedom.