The Ghosts of Dating Past....

When I was in my early twenties, I remember asking out one of my co-workers. She was hands down the best-looking woman working on our team. I asked her if she’d like to go to the movies.

She said YES! I couldn’t believe it! One of my best friends just happened to work at the same company, and he couldn’t believe it either LOL.

I was on top of the world baby!

We agreed to go to the movies (HORRIBLE idea for a first date by the way) and she would meet me there at 7 pm the following Saturday.

I remember being so excited and anxious Friday night I could barely sleep a wink!

I showed up to the movie theater about 15 minutes early. I didn’t want to mess up anything by being late.

I remember standing in front of the theater and looking at my watch

6:40 pm

After a little bit of time passed by, I looked at my watch again

6:50 pm

I was getting super nervous, but I decided not to call her because I didn’t want to appear too needy.

7:05 pm

I called her, but she didn’t answer. I didn’t bother leaving a voice message.

7:20 pm

Called her again, no answer.


You guessed it. 𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒈𝒉𝒐𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒎𝒚 𝒂𝒔𝒔.

I remember calling my best friend and telling him what happened. We met up at a bar and started up again with our weekly conversations about how women were no good, and they only wanted guys with money or guys who look like movie stars.

See my friend and I were both struggling with dating at the time, and we always blamed all of our problems on women. If a woman wasn’t interested in one of us, you could always count on one of us to have a ready-made excuse.

“𝐼’𝑚 𝑡𝑜𝑜 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑟𝑡”

“𝐼’𝑚 𝑡𝑜𝑜 𝑐ℎ𝑢𝑏𝑏𝑦”

“𝐼 𝑑𝑜𝑛’𝑡 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑒𝑛𝑜𝑢𝑔ℎ 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑦”

That Monday at work, I walked in and immediately expected my co-worker to start making a bunch of excuses telling me why she couldn’t make our date.

Instead, all she said was “Hey Derrick” and went back to working. I stood there with my mouth open. Is that all she’s going to say?????

Then it hit me like a ton of bricks…..she forgot about our date.

My problem back then wasn’t that I was too short, too chubby, or didn’t make enough money.

The 𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐋 problem was the same problem a lot of “nice guys” and introverts have with women.

I was CONSTANTLY choosing with women with low interest.

Once I FINALLY figured out how to weed out women with low interest, my dating life kicked into high gear.

No more getting ghosted on dates for me.

If you're tired of struggling with women who have low interest, let's hop on a call to see how I can help!

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