I was working with a couple (David and Megan)* who wanted some coaching in regards to their relationship. A few months earlier, both began to notice they were talking to each other less and less with each passing year. David described it as two ships passing each other silently in the night. They also noticed they were bickering over unimportant things like who would drive the kids to school in the morning, or what movie to go see on their occasional night out. One night